Tuesday, 31 March 2015

The Month That Was - March

Yikes! March was rough. With a combination of major financial yuckies (I have a toddler, thats the best word I could think of) and the return to uni, balanced with lots of chances to socialise with friends, I'm pooped! No really, I'm always pooped! I wake up, pooped! Ok enough about the pooped.


Monday, 30 March 2015

A day in the life of a mother of 3 children

So our weekdays normally unfold as follows:

7:00 everyones alarms go off, everyone hits snooze. 
Everyone else dozes off again while me and baby are up and ready to start the day




7:20 breakfast is prepped, lunches are being prepped ready to be packed, most people are dressed and ready to start eating breakfast

Saturday, 28 March 2015

Saturday is for Sharing #11

This is going to be a big one ladies and jelly beans!








Big, because a friend suggested a download an app called Pocket to save articles. DING! Light bulb moment. This app is perfect for when I find an article I love and want to share. So hopefully these sharing posts will become more meaty and full of great posts I stumble upon in those rebellious moments when I should be doing uni work and am reading blogs instead.

Friday, 27 March 2015

The Prompt - Presence

With my small stature, I'm 150cm or 5 feet, I often wonder what kind of impression I give off or what kind of presence I radiate.

Amongst friends I noticed that my personality is like THIS! I think it's big, but if you were to ask people who know me they would tell you I am quiet. In a big group, yes I sit back and enjoy the energy, but in a smaller group I tend to pipe up a bit more.

Parent teacher interviews were held recently and funnily enough my daughters exhibit the same characteristics. The typical,

"She would benefit more from engaging and contributing to discussions."

"She needs to ask more questions when she does not understand what we are doing in class."





My children. I would pay a lot of money for my children to openly and honestly tell me what they thought of me. Because all I know for sure is that they are scared of me. Wow, that's pretty heavy.


Wednesday, 25 March 2015

Wellness Wednesday - Me Time

Me time. Wow. It's so rare and far between these days, it's almost a foreign concept to me. But if it were ever to come my way I would easily know what to do!


I would fill ME time with...


  • a really good book and a really good coffee
  • a wash, cut and blow dry. My hair needs some attention
  • A manicure, pedicure and facial would be nice. My hands and feet look like claws!
  • People watching and brunch at any of my favourite spots
  • The ART GALLERY! I miss it so much!
  • Trashy reality tv, like Keeping up with the Kardashians. It's bad that it's good!
  • Shopping in the city. I STILL haven't gone to Sephora in the city and it's been open for ages!
  • borrowing someones DSLR and trying my hand at photography. It's the one thing I've always wanted to be good at but never actually really tried yet. 
Wow. I really need to find some time for myself. It's funny how 24 hours sounds like a lot of hours, yet finding a few moments for myself and my passions and interest is such a challenge. Here's to more me time in the near future!


Scoops of Joy


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Tuesday, 24 March 2015

Are you always multitasking?

How many balls are you juggling at this moment?

How many trains of thought are you on?

I've noticed lately that I have been rather frazzled and scatter brained. I just find it hard to focus. Hard to remember things. Hard to stay on track. It's safe to say I'm juggling a lot of balls.

I like to think I'm efficient. I have to be. I have to get a lot done in a small amount of time and with finite resources (namely with my 2 hands).



You aren't actually multitasking if you think about it. I mean unless you are physically in two places at once doing two different tasks, you're basically just switching tasks. You are also not really focused on each task. I mean I realise my frazzled state of mind is because my mind is just trying to take on too much at once.

I've also noticed I don't actually get MORE done. Theoretically I thought I would but I don't. Because I am so busy jumping from task to task I basically finish all the tasks at the same time it would have taken me if I just paced myself and focused on each task individually.

Multitasking or "task switching" is tiring. It's stressful. It takes a toll on you mentally and physically. It takes you away from everything around you because you are so "focused" on what you are doing. Lots of accidents have happened around the house because I am rushing to get the third load of washing into the machine, whilst making sure dinner doesn't burn on the stove and the kids are on task doing their homework,with the little one normally crying for attention the whole time. See. That's just not a pretty picture is it.

I mean I draw the line at talking on the phone and driving, that freaks me out and I just let the phone ring out while I'm driving. I also ban technology at the dinner table which means TV off and phones and Ipads away. But I know I still have a long way to go.

It really is about actively removing distractions and making the decision to tune out whatever isn’t relevant at this moment in time. When you have a young child this is easier said than done, because they demand a lot of your attention. It’s all training and practice.
I think allowing yourself a few minutes of time out (the good kind, not the disciplinary kind) works wonders! Okay so I don’t get this time out till quite late at night when the kids are in bed and the house is ready for the day to come, but I try and make sure I get these precious moments. I deserve them. You deserve them. You work hard.

Let’s make a pact. Say NO to multitasking and yes to a more focused life.

Mummascribbles
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Monday, 23 March 2015

Menu Planning Monday

So I hosted a Tupperware party at my humble abode and I thought I would share what was on the menu.

I don't host a lot and I have a toddler and not much time to prep so most of these items are fuss free or can be prepped the day/night before. Links will take you directly to the recipes I used.

Caution! This post may make you hungry(ier)

Appetizers/finger food


Guacamole  and hummus and crackers
Vegetarian mini curry pies (cheated, store bought! but so yummy!)



Mains

Salmon, sour cream, dill and caper sandwiches on chia wholemeal bread
Salami, Cheese, tomato sandwiches
Chilli lebanese sausages 


Thirst quenchers

Agrum
Tea/coffee



What are your go to recipes when hosting a party?





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Saturday, 21 March 2015

Saturday is for Sharing #10

I always have two revelations every Saturday.

1) wow that week went quick!
2) I love to share posts and blogs with you all!




Lets get to it!




Toni at Thrifty girl. Big dreams. won me over from the get go. Only a new blog but she just seems to be on the ball. She recently celebrated her 1 year anniversary with her husband and also shares her debt-free journey. Her most popular post is 5 Blogging mistakes that I made and I think most bloggers can relate. I can't wait to see where Toni takes her blog.


ML over at Sweetheart of the South, posted You know you're a blogger and I could totally relate. I think many bloggers have this underlying unity where we really want our blogs to be the best they can be and to know that someone, ANYONE, is reading it is such a rewarding feeling. My blog is always on the back of my mind and I come up with great ideas for it in the worst of times and places (namely the shower or when I'm cooking dinner).  



Rachel who blogs at Mummy in Training, wrote a fabulous letter to all those people who thinks its okay to stare. So Rachel's little one was having a tantrum in a store. Firstly this is SO COMMON I don't get why it still shocks people when a young child has a tantrum. I digress. Rachel's son was upset that he was not allowed to run around flying his toy plane in the store. Enter tantrum. If Rachel had let her son run around she would have still gotten the stares which scream "Don't you know how to control your child?" it's a lose lose situation at times. But yes, there are those mothers who have been in that same situation who know how you feel and do not pass any judgment.



Sorry it's another short one but I'm still splitting what little time I have between blogging and Uni work. Hope you have a great weekend. Feel free the share some posts that you wrote or that you've come across, with me over at twitter

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Friday, 20 March 2015

A letter to myself

Earlier this week, I came down with a stomach bug or food poisoning which made me realise that I was burnt out. I had been pushing myself harder than I needed to and my health was payng for it. Sometimes I just need to give myself a little reminder to slow down and take care of myself.




Hey. You! Sit down! You haven't sat down all day!

Thursday, 19 March 2015

The journey to minimalism

Yes, this blog is about taking steps and a journey, but I still sometimes wonder what/when/where my destination is.

I came across Light by Coco and immediately became obsessed. That's not creepy, is it?



Coco is all about living light. I binge watched her Youtube videos and now I have a new burst of energy towards my Bag a week challenge. I was first intrigued by her capsule wardrobe for fall/winter. Yes, don't worry. I didn't know what a capsule wardrobe was either, until I went here.

Because Australian weather likes to keep you on your toes, I'm not sure when I will need my fully fledged autumn/winter wardrobe to be ready but it's all a process.

But then I realised Coco LIVES light. Beyond her wardrobe. I watched a tour of her apartment and kitchen (yeah, okay, that is a little creepy) and I was just wondering where all her 'stuff' was. I was just enthralled with the lightness and clarity of her home and life pretty much.



So then I looked at those books in my bookshelf that I don't need/read/want. Those flats that kill my feet are still hidden in the shoe cupboard. I have so many pyjamas. It's funny because I thought I had made some progress, which I have, but how much further do I have to go.

Go where?

If I were to list, where I want to go/be, it would have to be

  • content
  • happy
  • calm
  • clear
  • simple
  • focused
I can just see the benefits of truly living light. Coco has been on this journey for about 4 years now and I wonder if I will ever get to my elusive destination. Here's to hope and cutting out even more of the clutter.


Mums' Days

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Wednesday, 18 March 2015

How to overcome setbacks

Setbacks. You can't avoid them. But you can overcome them.

As of lately my husband and I have been metaphorically struggling to tread water. It's as though the chips are down and everything is just snowballing.

I will say our initial reactions to these set backs weren't great. There was a bit of yelling and huffing. A bit of talking down to each other and about others. Slamming cupboard doors and kicking things around.

But after the storm calmed down, we were able to look at each other for clarity.

That's how things became. Everything seemed cloudy. As though we were in a deep fog and visibility was nil. But once we were able to actually look at the situation, we were able to come to some conclusions.


Lying face down on the floor may be a temporary solution.
You will have to face the problems, eventually.

Acceptance that things happen

Things happen. You really can't avoid them. Smooth sailing only lasts for so long. Accepting things just avoids the knee jerk frustrated response and you are able to work through the kinks much quicker.

Having a support system

Funnily enough, set backs really show you who your support system is made up of. Our biggest support is each other. As you would hope a spouse would be, when things got sticky it really the other spouse was there to pick you up. My husband has been having a hell of a time with his work van and the costs are running high. I wasn't well the other day and I seem to fall behind in uni work as soon as I get caught up. Sometimes your better half can give you something as small as a bit of perspective or even taking over with the kids and dinner and housework. It all helps. 

Perspective

It could be worse. It could ALWAYS be worse. I am very guilty at looking at what I don't have and what I still need, without appreciating what I already have. Set backs really force you to open up your eyes and look around you. Look at whats really important. Look at what you can trim out of your life. Look at what you need a bit more of in your day to day. Just have a really good look.

Planning

Set backs sometimes require you to realign your agenda. We learnt to just get practical and proactive. Instead of feeling like victims to the situation, we decided to take control of it and steer it to where things need to be. I think with a more realistic outlook on any setback you can find a way out, up, through or around it.


What are your tips and strategies for overcoming setbacks?


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Tuesday, 17 March 2015

Mummy goes back to school

I'm not talking about the time of year where we buy the new black school shoes, bag, lunchboxes, adhesive name labels and label everything in hopes it will make its way home by the end of the term.

No I'm talking about mummy and her desire to learn. 

This post is here to reassure that little voice in your head. JUST DO IT MAMA! Because you know you can, you know you should. You know you want to. 

A few years ago I was uninspired and Googling around. That is never a safe move. But instead of buying a bag and some shoes I don't need I enrolled into online university. If you are curious what course I enrolled in, it's Librarianship at Curtin Universtiy, via Open Universities.

I hadn't really had an in depth discussion or internal dialogue about this. I mean, I'm a smart girl. I try not to down play it and dumb myself down. If I caught my daughters engaging in any behaviour or situation where their true intelligence was down played, I would be mortified. There is nothing wrong with being a smart girl. 

So online university just made sense to me. It just didn't come with any questions or queries.



Fast forward to today, I've begun my final year subjects and am in the midst of scouting locations for my third year practicum.

With deep dismay, blogging has taken a back seat but only for now, while I learn to juggle an extra ball in my already amazing juggling act that I do on the daily.

There are many other mothers in my course. Some have one child. Some have seven and live on the farm with lots of animals, and I'm being totally serious. One great thing about mothers is that we work hard. We might post discussions at weird hours. We might have editing issues because more than likely we are multitasking. Yes I have been known to breastfeed whilst frantically working on assessments. In the end we get it done. And that's all that matters.

My units this study period are all about management. I've never been a manager, but I feel like 'running' my family is kind of on the same level. I just have to keep on top of things, make sure people are doing what they need to do, or are heading to where they need to be and have with them all the things they need. Every day, all the time.

I've got great problem solving skills and wonderful interpersonal skills. Time managements is like breathing to me. Efficiency is my middle name.

Bottom line ladies, listen to that voice and don't down play your skills and wisdom. A strong, smart woman is a capable woman, and a capable woman can change the world.
Mummascribbles
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Monday, 16 March 2015

A chocolate high tea

Yes! You read that correctly. A CHOCOLATE HIGH TEA. That's like when your two loves have a baby and just so much yes!!



So a dear friend of mine is celebrating her birthday the best way possible. By enjoying time (and food) with friends. Rather than clumping all her friends into one room, she is having little get togethers in little groups so she can actually spending time with friends. You know how it is when all your friends are in the one room its hard to get more than 2 sentences in with each person.

I digress. Chocolate. High tea. Yes.


We enjoyed our high tea on a porch at the lovely Coco Chocolate in Sydney's Harbour National Park at historic Middle Head, near Mosman.

High tea consisted of;

A shot of hot chocolate
The most scrumptious scones with butter, jam and fresh cream
Raspberry dark chocolate
Coconut milk chocolate
Flourless orange cake
Chocolate pistachio shortbread
Florentines 
Cake with double cream and strawberries
And of course, tea!



You know when you need a good chocolate feast and an even better laugh with friends while trying to fight off magpies and struggling to learn the secrets to posing for a good OOTD shot. Well maybe not in those exact words, but you get me.



The four of us are mothers. Some newer, others older. But we all have the commonality of being rather tired and bewildered at just how challenging it can be. Whether its a change in sleeping patterns, going back to work, starting preschool or trying to prepare for the tweens, parenting just doesn't let up. So a bit of chocolate and giggles won't hurt anyone. I think it is so important for parents to find the time to spend with others. I mean having a young child means you are rarely alone, but parenting can actually become quite lonely. I came away from this with a slight food coma, and some sore abdominal muscles from all the laughing. I will say, it's a true friendship when you all turn up in blue as though it was planned, but it was a total coincidence.

If you're a Sydney sider or you're stopping by or you love chocolate, check out Sydney Chocolate School



Meanwhile, I am up to my neck in uni work so if posts become sporadic that is why. I'm hoping to post at least twice a week but final year just doesn't let up, kind of like parenting.

Let's Talk Mommy
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Saturday, 14 March 2015

Saturday is for Sharing #9

Yikes! It's been one of those weeks where I barely had time to brush my hair, let alone enjoy the blogging world all it has to offer. I still stumble upon some great posts to share with you though.




Maureen is a blogger from Indonesia. Yes, where my culture and heritage are from, where my parents were born and where my family and my heart live. Can you not already feel the positive vibes this blog has to offer. Scoops of Joy promotes wellness, well being and a healthy lifestyle. I LOVE her love letter to herself, I may write one too. She also hosts Wellness Wednesday which is great for getting over an awful hump day. Head on over and check her blog out. For some reason I could really do with some ice cream right about now!




Kelly is living A Life Less Frantic and I could definitely use a bit of that. I have re-read this post so many times on drowning in life. That over committed, over worked slump that I feel like I've been carrying myself in. I've had so many AHA! moments when reading How to Figure Out Your Thing. Based on personality types, Kelly helps you umm... figure out your thing. The thing that drives you, that helps you, that gives you life. Funnily enough, Kelly and I are both INFJs so our need to help others is huge, and I really do love it when I see others getting themselves sorted out. The image about is from her blog and is such a great manifest to live by. I love coming across great Aussie bloggers!




Nikki at Stressy Mummy shares a great post on Encouraging Kids to Write. I have 2 bookworms in the house and I've always seen a connection between reading and writing and I really try and encourage quiet time for them to write, anything! I bought them a set of ink joy pens which come in so many colours and are easy to write with. I also recently bought them little journals and they are filling them up fast. Miss Middle has been writing stories and making books, completely illustrated from the moment she could write. 


A short and sweet share this week, because uni has had me held hostage for most of the week. Hopefully the blogging ball will stay in the air.


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Friday, 13 March 2015

The Prompt - Gift

Gifts. Giving. Recieving. Sharing.

The thought always counts.

I like gifts. Who doesn't? The kind you can't always see or keep. The kind with no reason. The unexpected kind. 

The made with love, come from the heart kind. The kind you can't wrap or buy.


Tuesday, 10 March 2015

I must confess; sometimes I get jealous.

Please don't take this as a "i hate my life" type of post because that couldn't be more further from the truth. I read a great post by Dana at Wonder Forest, to stop comparing your life to others and I realised THAT is where the jealousy comes from.

I get so caught up in what others are doing/going/buying/achieving that my focus is not where it should be.

I mean, it's not like I get jealous of anything huge. I just wouldn't mind having the choice to go out for coffee on the spur of the moment because I felt like it, without having to coordinate schedules and find a baby sitter first. I know, I know. I am part of a very fortunate group of people who are lucky enough to be parents. 

Spontaneity and children just don't really work. Well for me us anyways. Is this a cop out? There's just always something in the way/ needs to be done/ somewhere to be/ bedtime/ laundry.


I think I might be jealous because the simple act of taking care of yourself just seems much harder once you become a parent.  The juggling act of taking care of yourself, partners, the kids, the house, work, friends, health, hobbies and spirit... What was I even saying?? 


Sunday, 8 March 2015

5 habits to stop; 5 habits to start

I won't ask how your new years resolutions are going, if you don't ask about mine. Even though the new year is about picking up new, positive habits or trying new things or recreating a new you, sometimes it's about dropping baggage or bad habits which are weighing you down. Here are some behaviours I'd like to drop.

1. Stressing.

I feel like I used to be a realist. i would just take the situation for what it was and deal with it. Especially lately, my husband and I just feel like things are snow balling and we just have a lot on our plates right now. We both tend to freak out and over think things which is completely draining both mentally and emotionally. We would both benefit immensely if we approach the situation with a calmer, clearer observation.

2. Drinking so much coffee.

I know. Gah! Why?? I drink at most but very rarely 2 coffees a day, but I know plenty of people who only drink coffee once a week or even NEVER! *Gasp!* i know, these people must have more noses than kids. But still, more water and less coffee is probably the way to go.

3. Yelling at the kids.

When I'm stressed it affects everyone in the family and just sets a negative, heavy tone in the home. I've been pretty good lately with the yelling though. Most times when I would normally be blowing my stack/going mental/ chucking a spaz (I love aussie slang) I've just looked at the big picture and thought contextually it is really going to make a difference if I start yelling  or making a fuss about it, most times it wont so I don't yell.

4. Wasting money.

I mean I don't think i waste money but I could really cut back. Yes even more than the time I bought enough food for a week and it evened up being less than $1 per meal. I will have to say I buy toys and clothes unnecessarily. No one in this house needs any new toys, clothes.. ANYTHING!

5. Multitasking

Yes I know, why??? Well because even though my productivity is high multitasking isnt good for anyone! Check out these reasons to say NO to multitasking.




They say you don't stop bad habits, you replace them with positive beahviours so lets hope I start,

Saturday, 7 March 2015

Saturday is for Sharing #8

Woop! The year is flying by! How is it the weekend already? Not complaining because I have SO many great blogs and blog posts to share with you today! Yes I did do a Leibster Award post yesterday which you should check out to find some new blogs to read and enjoy. 

Caro at The Twinkle Diaries, some how has a great blog whilst having twin toddlers! Let's just applaud her for that. Not going to lie, her knack for photography and colours and interiors is enviable. She is able to capture the beauty in the simplest of things and moments. She has great insights into being pregnant and a mother to twins. Her blog is over-all welcoming and warm :)

  


Jess at Wry Mummy is another blogger that I have to share with you all. I like a bit of good, honest humour and that's what you get from Jess. She just keeps it real, I mean mothers DO need to learn how to survive a supermarket with a child. That's not easy! Her blog titles draw you in and she doesn't make you feel bad for being you. 




LOTS of posts to share with you this week, Let's go!


Does it really get easier as they get older? great question and post by Erika at Ever-changing life of a mum. I mean does it? I don't think so. As Erika stated "Little children, little problems - big children, big problems." I only wish someone told me early on that it doesn't get easier, so I wouldn't be waiting for the easy phase, because there is none.

Natalie at Our Parallell Connection has many great posts, some of my faves being Tips for dads on raising a daughter and Wonderful Words - I have your back. I find her approach to parenting inspiring, thought out, engaging and welcoming. Natalie has a lot of great stuff to share :)

A mummas time out reminds us that it's okay to cry. Admit it, sometimes we forget, or we see tears as a sign of weakness. I respect a blogger who wears their heart on their sleeve and opens up to you. thank you for this simple reminder :)

Yes all us parents know how much of a learning curve it is once you become a parents. MummyBexM and hubby share what they have learnt and take it further to see what they have learnt about their significant other. I love this idea, I may or may not ask my hubby what changes he's observed in me.. or not haha.

Amelia at Slugs and Snails shares a great post of the things you bid farewell to once becoming a parent, number one being your dignity, which I relate too well on. 


And as we wrap up my first Saturday Sharing for this month and this season, feel free to follow me on twitter, bloglovin and pinterest :)

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Friday, 6 March 2015

Leibster Award - Steps with Sarah

Sometimes I ask myself, where is my blogging going? And then the sweetness of the blogging world shines it's light and Beth at Lillybet decides to nominate little old me and 10 other cool bloggers for a Leibster Award. Not sure on the protocol if you've been nominated before but I am never one not to share blog love! A huge thank you to Beth, who has a great recipe for cinnamon twists (which totally poops on my recipe...). She's also jumped on the scrapbooking Project Life wagon, which I have secretly wanted to jump on to for a very long time now and has some very helpful and practical tips for new mums and mums to be. Thank you again Beth :)


Thursday, 5 March 2015

6 Habits of small home dwellers































We have been living in our 40-odd square foot unit/apartment/home for close to 3 years. We first moved from a 3 bedroom house, to a 2 bedroom house to our now small 2 bedroom unit. Funnily enough our family has grown which means less space for everyone but that also means a change in behaviour and habit. Change is a good thing and if anything a smaller home has benefited me and my family in so many ways.


6 habits of small home dwellers


1. Constantly on declutter and tidy mode.

You can read more about my year of decluttering on my blog, but the lack of space naturally inclines us to have a lack of stuff. My husband has been lugging a box of fishing and car magazines from house to house and we realised in this house there is just no room for said box, so he picked 5 magazines he just couldn't part with and said box is gone! Not much floor means it disappears under toys, shoes, clothes and stuff very quickly. We just generally like to keep a tidy home (for safety reasons as well) but a clear floor or a clear kitchen bench really makes the home feel bigger and my head doesn't hurt as much.

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