Saturday, 31 January 2015

Saturday is for sharing #3





You think you've read it all and then you come across blogs and posts that just make you go WOAW! I've been resting and taking care of me this week which meant a lot of time spent on the internet (teehee)



I shared 11 great blogs that I think you need to go check out but STILL the blogging community has even more to offer. That's what I love about this whole blog thing. There is just so much good stuff out there.

What does PND feel like? - Steph at Misplaced Brit wrote this post which strikes so many chords and hits so many nails on so many heads. For someone who has never been through PND it's very hard to understand it. For someone who has it or has gone through PND, READ THIS POST. For some reason knowing you aren't the only one who feels this way or is suffering from this, makes you feel a little more normal and less alone. I think PND is so easy to miss because everyone is so busy making sure baby is doing okay that sometimes mummys mental health gets pushed aside. Mummys make sure you ask your fellow mothers, "How you feeling?" once in a while.

Five Family Goals to Set For The New Year - The Giggles Family reminded me to not only set goals for myself but to also set goals for my family. It really is about making the conscious decision and effort to make time and make memories. It's funny to think of all the things that we sometimes let get in the way of something as important as family. I'd have to say her goals have really inspired me.

It's a baby's life - Alana at Out of Office gives me another reminder of the benefits of just getting out of the house, even though it can seem exhausting sometimes. It's definitely more for mummy than for baby. I didn't get much done these past school holidays. The weather was either too hot or rainy. Gotta love Aussie summers. If we did go out it was just for a quick meal, to the park around the corner, to friends and families houses, the public library. I did have a lot of girlfriends asking to meet up for coffee. I may need to take them up on their offers.

The Quiet Beauty of Ordinary Days - Sharon from Rediscovered Families is my new must read, must follow, must learn. Her whole blog is about being more present and aware to create a truly connected family. As previously said, we spent a lot of time at home during the school holidays just enjoying our time together. I think subconsciously I wanted to just enjoy the ordinary days. Once school starts, so does the homework, after school activities, projects and everything else that needs to get done. I hope my children enjoy the ordinary days as much as I do.

The house that untidies itself - Morgana at But Why Mummy Why could have possibly snuck into my daughters room and taken a photo of the floor. I guess little ladies are the same no matter where they are from. After reading her post, it is nice to know that I am not along in that feeling of despair at the constant mess. IT IS like shoveling snow while it is snowing. But knowing me, I will continue to keep shoveling in the snow.

So many more links I want to share but its the weekend which means family time and hopefully a sleep in tomorrow. Share your favourite links by leaving a comment or tweeting me.

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Friday, 30 January 2015

I am a Striking Mum!

Kate on Thin Ice knows that 2015 is the year for Mums everywhere! This is the year we put ourselves back on the to do list above things like the dirty dishes and those commitments we didn't want to commit to.
I used to live with a lot of guilt. If my house was not impeccable I felt guilty. If things got chaotic or disorganised I felt at fault. I put a lot of pressure on myself and in the long run everyone suffers. Mentally, emotionally and physically drained, you can imagine the type of mother and wife I was. I was snappy, rude and I noticed my kids distancing themselves from me. This is the year i pick my battles and i reorganise my priorities. Do my kids really need to go to swim classes, tae kwon do and dance classes? No. If this pile of clothes is not put away right now will anything bad happen? No. Do I want to put my kids happiness and my sanity above all else? Yes. 
I thought I would join in on the link and answer some questions that put me on the to do list for. Few moments.


1. Look at an old photograph of yourself. How does it make you feel? What hopes and dreams did that person have? What things did they enjoy doing? What might this person say to you now?
This photo is of me (in the hat) when I was 17 and best friends when I was in year 12, so the final year of high school. That year was stressful. With final exams and the end of high school coming up and deciding what I wanted to do for the rest of my life, I didn't need any extra stress. My best friends don't go to the same school as me and I was having major drama with my group at school. Looking back at the end of high school I had basically "lost" three quarters of my school friends. We're all good now but looking back it was all so silly. At this stage I really thought the world was my oyster and I could do anything I wanted. I had a major passion for design and had applied at some of the top universities in any design courses they offered. I really thought I could do it. I had THAT much belief in myself and very little doubts. I was ambitious. I loved spending my time getting lost in a book, discovering new music and spending time with friends. Oh my gosh, I remember me and my best friends were in the works of creating our of fashion brand. Wow we really thought we could do it all. This person would tell me now,
"Don't rush. Listen to your gut. He is not good for you. You will get there in due time. Don't doubt yourself, you are more capable than you know. Learn when to say no and when to say yes. Mum and dad just want whats best for you. Always respect yourself. Don't follow the crowd, they will take you places you don't want to go. Stay true to yourself."
2. How will you carve out time for yourself and your interests in 2015?
As I said earlier, I will learn to let the house work slide a little so I can have the time to do things that I want to do, and I can relax once in while. Once the kids are asleep, go for it! I will do what I WANT TO DO. Even if its something silly like watch youtube videos till 1 am or eat 2 and a half donuts. Or something more productive like plan blogposts and consider moving to Wordpress self hosted. It's whatever I want to do.
3. What would you like to change about the way you look? What can you celebrate now about your own individual beauty?
I would like my outfits to look more cohesive. I never quite feel like my outfits make sense. I would also like to take care of my skin a little more, eg, drink more water and do an at home facial once in a while. I've felt the need to wear less makeup. That may be due to less concern about how I look and more focus on how I am as a person, it may also be due to a lack of time or the fact that its summer and therefore very hot. Either way I just feel more comfortable in my own skin.
4. What are your personal goals for 2015? Who or what can help you achieve them?
Well blogging was a big goal of 2015 and I have a friend who works in marketing for Google so I'm sure she could help me. My goals mainly rely on my and my personal choice to follow through on them. I think by setting smaller goals, they should help me move towards my bigger goals. 

Feel free to join in on the link up for all you Striking Mums!
Kate on thin Ice Striking Mums

Step 24,

The Prompt - Celebration

Before having children, celebration tended to happen on birthdays, job promotions, buying a house, public holidays, all the "typical" celebrations. After having children, I realised I celebrate far more.

Just yesterday we celebrated my almost 2 year old learning how to say half of one of her older sisters names. Yes just half of a name. Sha. She learnt how to say Sha. To someone else this isn't a blip on the radar but to our little family its huge because little baby A doesn't have a huge vocab and my middle child was feeling left out because baby A knew how to say mama and dada and even half of big big sisters name, just not middle childs name.



After children, you learn to celebrate the little things, and you quickly learn the little things are the big things. First smiles. First roll over. First crawl. First steps. First tooth. First words. First meals. First time using the toilet. First tooth lost. First time riding the bike with no training weels. School awards. It's all a celebration.

I guess my children have taught me to celebrate the everyday. To live a celebration. Life is far too short to wait for things to celebrate. Learn to celebrate the simple.



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Step 23,

Thursday, 29 January 2015

Leibster Award - Steps with Sarah

I was nominated for a Leibster award by the fellow Sydney sider and well written Ana at Hey Mama! To me, her blog is "goals" (omg I just tried to use teenage slang, ok ok I'll stop. Sorry.) Engaging content, aesthetically  pleasing, she ticks all the boxes. The Leibster award is such a great idea and I am more than willing to pay it forward. I found a detailed explanation of the origin and rules of the award here.


Wednesday, 28 January 2015

Gratitude





I've been having a tough week so it has been very easy to over look the many, often simple  things that get taken for granted. This week I am grateful for

My children
If you saw my silent sunday post, I'm was supposedly expecting, however I miscarried the thursday after that post. Going through a miscarriage just changes my perspective on how lucky I am to have the children that I have. Every child really is a miracle. Its almost as though the odds are stacked against you before you have even been concieved so every child, is a true blessing. I mean they go back to school today after a 6 week break and I miss them already, even though they are currently asleep and about to start getting ready for school.

My dad
My brother recently lost his father in law to cancer and my sister in law is going through some tough times. My dad isnt the hugging type. My dad shows his love and care by doing anything he can to help you and advise you. Considering my mother has been through two miscarriages, my dad knew all the terminology and the importance of my rest and recovery. Even willing to take the day off in case i needed to be driven anywhere and even telling me which medication is best for my cramps. My dad really is just always looking out for me the best way he knows how.

Friends who become family
To be honest this pregnancy was a shock, but to the few friends who I have told, I now have to figure out a way to let them know i miscarried. I know some will weep when I tell them. Some will try and make jokes to cheer me up. Someone will try and source my happiness with a plate of food. I just know my friends. When I found out I was expecting my first thought was to doubt my abilities to be a good mother of four. My friends really boosted my confidence with such kind words of support and showing no doubts in my ability to mother four children, I knew I could do it because of them. THATS what friends are for.

My mother

As a mother, I feel as though I will always be in debted to this woman. Its the school holidays and my mother co ordinated her annual leave so she would be able to spend time with the kids and help me. I was without a car and the physical condition to go out and take her around to her favourite cafes and shopping spots. We spent most of her annual leave at home, talking, drinking coffee and just laughing. Though her holiday has been tainted with this tragedy my mother says she wouldnt want to spend it any other way.


My husband
I haven't mentioned my husband much on here. He is a big part of my life. This miscarriage hit him hard. Seeing me so emotionally distraught and in almost the same type of pain as labour, hit him hard. It also prompted him to help out more at home and with the kids. He admits that he could definitely do more around the house, and I will say it has been great not washing dishes all the time.

Take a few minutes out of your busy day to think about the many things in your life that deserve a bit of gratitude. What are you grateful for?


An InLinkz Link-up
Linked up to Enchanted Pixie's 52 Weeks of Gratitude 

Step 21,

Tuesday, 27 January 2015

Dear little one.

This is probably silly but I know its necessary.


Dear little one,

I'm sorry. I'm sorry I failed you. I'm sorry I couldnt provide you a safe place to grow, which caused your early departure. I'm sorry I did not behave as a pregnant woman should. I was both nervous and excited at the chance to meet you and be your mother. I'm sorry if you heard mummy and daddy saying things that sounded as though we weren't happy about your presence. I hope you know that you were loved so much by so many people.

Thank you little one, you taught me so much. You taught me to be thankful for everything I have. You taught me that my health is important too. You showed me the true miracle that is life. You brought out family in people who I refered to as friends.

I wish we got to meet. I wish we got to spend sleepless nights and restful days together. I wish you could have woken me at night with kicks in my belly. I wish you warmth and happiness little one, wherever you may be.

Mummy.


The Multitasking Mummy



Step 20,

Monday, 26 January 2015

Expecting, but not expecting.

So I took a pregnancy test last Sunday which came back positive and by the Thursday I was bleeding. I wasn't planning on having another baby so soon, but for those few days I already kind of connected to the clump of cells supposedly growing inside my uterus (as reffered to by my doctor). I had already begun to mentally prepare myself for being a mother to four children. I had already begun to seriously declutter and make plans to reshuffle the kids room around around and invest in a 7 seater car. I already told family and close friends.







Saturday, 24 January 2015

Saturday is for Sharing #2

Cheers to the weekend, hopefully the next 48 hours are kind and restful to you. I've had another crazy, jam packed week wrapping up the kids school holidays. The kids can't wait to go back to school. I thought I would feel the same, but I will honestly miss eating lunch with them, the rare sleep in and the days spent at home in pjs playing board games and drawing pictures. Another week full of posts to make the soft matter up top ponder a little and the hairs on the back of your neck to tingle. I love a post which you walk away from with a new perspective, appreciation or even a bit of a giggle.



Friday, 23 January 2015

The Prompt - Family

Family means a lot to me. I place a great importance on family and maintaining relationships with family. Wether it be talking to mum everyday, sending wacky pictures of my kids to my aunties and cousins back home or consoling my sister in law when her father passed away. It's not always laughs and giggles. Families fight. Families get on each others nerve. Thats the truth and its totally normal. But what saddens me is when forgiveness is not seeked and the disagreement boils and bubbles under the surface and continues to grow until forgiveness seems to hard to give. 


I've seen too many ugly fall outs within families, between spouses and between in laws over the most trivial issues. The common denominator seems to be too much pride and ego and not enough humility or sentivity. In the end the ones who are most affected are the children. It really does take a village to raise a child.

I deeply appreciate my family. My parents left their family back home in Indonesia in the 70s and flew to Australia, a new land with hopes and dreams for the family and the life they would create for themselves. For the great sacrifices they have made, I always feel a great duty to my parents. To make them proud. To put a smile on their face after a long days work. 

I learnt everything I know from my family. I learnt good work ethic and the importance of hard work. I learnt persistence and perseverence. I learnt team work and compassion. I learnt to always give it your. I learnt how to argue fairly. I learnt how to share. I learnt how to be content. I learnt the value of family. Even though I have a family of my own now, I am still their daughter and they still just want me to be happy. Family, will always have your back.



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Step 16,

Thursday, 22 January 2015

Me, myself, Sarah.

Ummm so this space/blog was meant to be for me, but I feel like I havent even really talked about myself. I've been obsessed with Vogues 73 questions videos on youtube  with people like Anna Wintour andVictoria  Beckham, and I thought, would I even be able to answer half of those questions? To be honest, I couldnt. This scares me. Its as if I dont even have a sense of who I am. How are my girls going to ever develop a solid sense of themselves.


Here's goes


1. I am an INFJ
2. I am more intelligent than I like to put on
3. I have a lot more patience now than I did 10 years ago
4. I am stronger than I appear, both physically, emotionally and mentally
5. I am a book worm who doesn't have time to read
6. I always wanted to be a writer or an architect
7. I am half way through getting my BA in Corp. Info. Management and Librarianship
8. I act a lot cooler than I actually am.
9. I love to make people laugh and smile
10. I love good food and good company, even if its just my own.


Okaaay... So that wasnt too hard. It seems as though I am not being my authentic self. Hmmm... Possible mission for 2015.

What is an interesting fact about yourself?? Comment below or tweet me


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Mums' Days


Step 15,

Wednesday, 21 January 2015

4 tips for surviving on a single income.

Hello to you! Thanks so much for stopping by. If you are here for some simple tips for getting by when the money isnt flowing in as fast and you need it to, keep reading.
A lot of people ask us how we survive with 3 kids, a mortgage and my husbands income only. As a couple we discussed and thought it would be better (and funnily more economical) if I was a stay at home mum. There was a long period of time where my husband went back to school and we lived off welfare/ social security.  I always find it hard to answer this question because I just get on with it.


Tuesday, 20 January 2015

Late New Years Resolutions

Haha.. What is it like late January?? Time doesn't even fly anymore, it zooms past at the speed of light.

Monday, 19 January 2015

Menu Monday #2 - How to meal plan and save money

Instead of my weekly menu, I thought I'd share with you how and why I meal plan. I was tagged by my BFF (I'm an adult, am I allowed to use that term?) to do a #4dayfoodchallenge which I will be post on my Instagram. So if you want to know what I'm rustling up for dinner, head on over and follow me :D 


I have been meal planning for as long as I've been married (which was a decade this past November). I had to learn some kitchen skills asap and I just didn't know any other way to shop for groceries.






Saturday, 17 January 2015

Saturday is for sharing (links)

Who else looks forward to the weekend? Hey I like weekends but they really are a little more full on than weekdays, well for me anyways. My kids are still on school holidays and are still looking forward to the weekend. Hoping you (and I) get to find some down time over the next 48 hours.





Friday, 16 January 2015

The Prompt: Focus

The deeper I dive into this blogger world the more I like it. A recent tweet from Mum turned Mom caught my attention and really spoke to that little girl in me who secretly wanted to be an author when she grew up. Its up to week 50 and going strong. Learn more about The Prompt.


Thursday, 15 January 2015

Wednesday, 14 January 2015

Summer proof make up.

Hi there! I hope this time of year is treating you well. As well as it can treat you. If you are a mum and it's the school holidays, may the force be with you! 

I have a confession to make. Yes, I am THAT mum. That mum who goes out in what could be pjs or a very, very casual outfit and its 2:20pm. That mum who doesn't always find time to put her game face on. That mum who showers when there is time. I'm lucky if I've brushed my teeth. Mouthwash and floss are bonus points.

It's summer, so I'm all about products that are quick, easy and light but will stick around through the sweat and help me look a little more put together. Wait, isn't that what makeup should do anyways?.  Here are my picks for a strong game face. And they don't take up so much time.

summer make up beauty products



Tuesday, 13 January 2015

5 things I would tell myself if I was 10



They say the days are long, but the years are quick. Or something a long those lines.



My eldest is turning 10 this year. She chooses to write with a pen instead of pencil. She carries a thick novel around wherever we go. She is clearly an introvert. She loves girlie nighties and still loves a good Play-doh session. She's petite and sensitive. She doesn't like to hold my hand anymore and she loves to take her time with her meals.

I want her to know these things that I wish I knew when I was 10

1. There's no rush to grow up, really. Enjoy this lack of responsibility.

2. You won't have the same friends and best friends that you have now forever, just be a good friend and person and yourself and you will be fine

3. Read. Keep reading. Your love for reading is a great thing and will help you in the future

4. You are dads favourite and he sees so much potential in you. Take the lack of praise and encouragement as a bouncing board to be your own cheer squad and pat your own back once in a while

5. Your hair is curly. Learn to deal with it and love it. Don't brush out the curls, enhance them. Make the girls with straight hair jealous.
She's approaching those treacherous years of... Ugh i cant even say the word!! Where things get awkward and things start to change.

The other day she asked me, "Mummy, can we keep playing Play-doh?"

"Yes, of course sweetie. You can play as long as you wish."



Mums' Days


Step 6,

Monday, 12 January 2015

Menu Monday #1

Thanks for popping in. Ready to make yourself even hungrier than you already are? Well I personally always feel hungry. I might need to see someone about that...

menu food recipes
Menu Planning Mondays



I've decided to dedicate Mondays to our menu for the week. A big advocate for menu planning, I just simply don't know any other way to cook or go grocery shopping. Hopefully this will inspire me to branch out and cook different recipes and hopefully it inspires you to implement a bit of menu planning into your lives. It feels good to always have an answer when the kids start whining "whaaaaats for diiiinnneeerrr muuummmyyyyyy?" I will also list the ingredients I had lying around which inspired the recipe and links if there are any.

Gule

Gule is an Indonesian curry served with rice. Nothing too special here. I have a sachet of the curry paste lying around so all i had to buy was some lamb pieces and coconut milk. This is the type of recipe that you put on the stove in the morning and leave it simmering all day so by dinner the flavours have developed and it looks like you tried really hard

Steak, baked potato and veges.

With a whole bunch of spices in my pantry I found a great recipe for a spice rub. With a bag of potatoes staring at me and a tub of sour cream crying for attention, baked potato as a side dish is perfect. With a bag of frozen veges I'm desperate to work my way through, throw on some mushroom sauce (which Is where the sour cream comes in again) and  you have a meal.

Chicken schnitzel with roast veges and sauce. 

Schnitzel has to be a favourite, repeat meal in this home. Roast whatever veges i have in my fridge (this week its potato, carrot and zucchini). My secret (or maybe Jamie Oliver's) to awesome roasted potatoes is to boil them for 5 mins first and then once drained put them back in the pot with olive oil, seasoning and herbs, close the pan and toss the potatoes do they have a rough texture which roasts so much better in the oven. The outside will be crisp and the inside will be soft. I have a tin of instant sauce which only requires boiling water and my secret to awesome schnitzel is homemade bread crumbs and parmesan cheese. Yum!

Sesame beef stirfry.

This recipe is so easy to make with a bottle of sesame oil and a broccoli for inspiration. I tend to tweak this recipe to whatever is in my fridge. That's what i love about a stir fry, its whatever!

Prawn avocado toastie with tuna patties.

I had a bottle of seafood sauce and lots of tins of tuna and no idea what to do with it. I thought I could spread the sauce on some toast with some peeled prawns and sliced avocado with some tuna patties made with mashed potato (there's that magical ingredient again) on the side and that to me is a meal! You said you can't have toast for dinner?

Balsamic garlic chicken with sun dried tomato couscous. 

I have a bottle of balsamic vinegar sitting around so be prepared for many balsamic recipes. I also had jars of sun dried tomatoes and capers in the fridge which would make a great side dish with couscous.

Wow yum! Super hungry now!! Do you have any favourite or repeat meals that are a must eat?





Step 5,

Sunday, 11 January 2015

Summer Beauty Favourites

I just realised my past few posts were quite heavy, both conceptually and textually. So on a lighter note, along the lines of finding myself, I love a good flat lay and I love anything make up or beauty related. I thought I should share some of my summer beauty faves. Might help you (and me) to get to know the real me.  




Thursday, 8 January 2015

Raising daughters. Raising women.



Who run the world, girls. - Beyonce

Raising girls. Raising women. Raising strong, confident women. Challenge, accepted.

As a mother, my actions speak volumes to my daughters. They won't remember everything that I say (or yell) but they will remember how I reacted when they were obviously playing an awesome game of what I would describe as "hotel, farm, cafe, fairies" in their room, and the floor is straight up, missing.

Sunday, 4 January 2015

Parenting with patience, perspective. Coffee helps.




*insert relaxing chant because it's the school holidays*

Parenting, beware. It's a trap!!

I'm kidding (sort of).

My daughters are 9 (going on 15), 7 and 18 months, so I'm constantly straddling three stages of parenting. Well that's what it feels like anyways.

Friday, 2 January 2015

Start by starting.

Let me welcome you to this space.

Thank you for stopping by. My name is Sarah.

2014 ended on quite a sombre note for me, with several relatives passing away within days of each other. Death really changes ones perspective on a lot of things. 

Death, makes me want to live. And not just live, but thrive. Experience. Create. Share. Learn. Grow. So fingers crossed, 2015 is a year of growth.

As a full time stay at mother of 3 beautiful girls, my actions speak very loudly. Louder than I realise. Like my parents have for me, i too have dreams for my kids. As of lately, its become clear to me that my actions do not align with the dreams i have for my girls. 

At the root of it all, I wish for my girls, a fulfilling life of happiness, value, and kindness. My over tired rants and constantly telling the girls to "hurry up!" have created a stressful, on edge vibe in this place we call home.





With every fiber of my being and with the deepest of intentions, i want that to change. This is where this blog and my journal (pictured above) come into play. I am now almost held accountable as soon as I put pen to paper or as soon as a blog post is published. 

I want to look back on 2015 as a year where goals were made and achieved, smiles and laughter replaced the shouting and knee jerk temper tantrums and I find myself again.

A lot of mothers know that story of losing yourself in the daily (and sometimes nightly) grind of being a mum. 2015 is the year of presence. Good presence. 

What better way to start by starting.

Step 1,
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